Years ago, I was deep in the struggles of parenting a defiant, actively independent, boundary pushing toddler. The days were endless and I could barely scrape up enough patience to get myself out the door in the morning with children in tow.
If you’ve been there, you get it. If you haven’t, use your imagination.
It was the holiday season and I was feeling anything but joyful. I actually felt pretty hopeless. Maybe it was the endless nights awake with my daughter or perhaps the daily episodes of tantrums and hitting when it came to brushing her teeth.
All I knew was that something had to change. Not only with my kids but also in my life. I wanted to parent on the same page with my husband, which wasn’t happening. I also wanted to parent in a way that cultivated my daughter’s natural ability to grow into a self-confident, empowered, young women. And I wanted it to be easier than what I was experiencing.
What happened? Why was this harder than I thought? I read the books but I still didn’t have the firm foundation and the tools that I needed. Where was that navigation system? Where was the manual?
The following year was the breaking point. I was tired of trying to break my child’s spirit to get her to listen and follow directions. I didn’t want to control her anymore. Somehow I knew that controlling her was NOT the answer. Deep in my heart I knew there was another way.
But what was the answer?
I had to solve this problem, even if it took take me forever. My parenting style WAS NOT WORKING because of this…
There was a cycle at work and I didn’t even know it.
This was our turning point. The place where everything SHIFTED.
The behavioral tools we now teach SHIFT this cycle.
If you want more joy and less struggle, I get it. So did I. It all begins with a conversation.
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