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How to get your teen to open up and talk to you?

Holding Space for TeenagerWish your teen would open up and talk more?

Getting your teen to open up and talk can be challenging. Take a moment and think back to a time when you were a teenager. Can you recall a “fun” memory? Can you remember the details? Was it your first day of high school, your first car, your 16th birthday, or your first kiss?

How about a “not-so-good” memory? Can you remember those details? Maybe your first car wreck, failed a finals test, or a blind date that went terribly bad?

 

Now, how about a time when you felt misunderstood by one of these incidents? Maybe you made a not-so-good choice and you received a punishment or grounding? Or maybe the incident had you feeling hopeless and alone.

 

What did that feel like? Did anyone listen to your experience or your side of the story? Can you remember? What did it feel like to feel misunderstood?

 

Now…

 

What if someone had taken the time to listen to you?

 

Put themselves in your shoes? Offering honest empathy despite what happened?

 

How would that have made you feel?

 

Would you have felt safe to take responsibility for your actions?

 

The teenage years are challenging. I don’t need to tell you that. But I can tell you, your child still needs you. Just in a different way.

 

Today, I want to share a tool that can help. It’s a tool I use and I encourage others to as well.

 

It is called, “Holding Space”

 

“To hold space means we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control.”
We want to support and care for the people in our lives when they are going through something big.

 


“But how do we do this?”
Check out the video & article below.

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You can read the full article at here
Here is a personal short story about holding space for a younger child.

 

If you think someone else can benefit from this information, please share using hashtag #parentingshift

 

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